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About pre-teen and teenage development

In the pre-teen and teenage years, children go through many changes – physical, social, emotional and cognitive.

During this time, children’s bodies, emotions and ideas about themselves develop and change at different speeds and times. There’s usually no need to worry if your child goes through some changes earlier or later than their peers.

During adolescence, your family can provide a secure emotional base for your child, no matter what’s going on in the rest of their life. Strong family relationships can help your child grow into a well-adjusted, considerate and caring adult.

Physical changes in pre-teens and teenagers

Puberty is the time when your child moves through a series of significant, natural and healthy changes.

Puberty starts when changes in your child’s brain cause sex hormones to start being released from the ovaries and testes.

This usually happens around 10-11 years for girls and around 11-12 years for boys.

But it’s normal for the start of puberty to range from 8-13 years in girls and 9-14 years in boys.

For more information

  • Physical changes in puberty
  • Puberty: helping pre-teens and teenagers handle changes
  • Puberty: when it’s early or late
  • Puberty: trans or gender-diverse children
  • Periods
  • Hygiene: pre-teens and teenagers

If you’re concerned about your child and puberty or about any other aspect of your child’s development during adolescence, talk with your child’s GP. They can reassure you and your child or refer you to someone who can help.

Emotional changes in pre-teens and teenagers

Pre-teens and teenagers often feel strong and sometimes overwhelming emotions like embarrassment, shame and humiliation. They might know the words for these emotions but still have trouble recognising them when they’re upset. Also, because of brain development, pre-teens and teenagers don’t always have the skills to express and manage emotions in an adult way. This is why your child might still need help with understanding and managing emotions.

For more information

  • Brain development: pre-teens and teenagers
  • Social and emotional changes: pre-teens and teenagers
  • Understanding and managing emotions: children and teenagers
  • Moods: helping pre-teens and teens manage emotional ups and downs
  • Resilience: pre-teens and teenagers
  • Confidence: pre-teens and teenagers
  • Risky behaviour: pre-teens and teenagers

Social changes in pre-teens and teenagers

Young people are busy working out who they are and where they fit in the world. As part of this process, pre-teens and teenagers might try out new or different clothing styles, music, art, friendship groups and so on. They might also want more independence and responsibility. You have an important role in helping your child to develop their identity and a sense of their place in the world.

For more information

  • Friends and friendships: pre-teens and teenagers
  • ‘Frenemies’ and toxic friendships: pre-teens and teenagers
  • Peer pressure and influence: pre-teens and teenagers
  • Youth subcultures: pre-teens and teenagers
  • Independence: pre-teens and teenagers
  • Shifting responsibility to pre-teens and teenagers

Staying connected can be an important part of supporting your child’s social and emotional development in the pre-teen and teenage years. Our video guide takes you through options for staying connected and shows you how different approaches to staying connected can get different results.

Sexual development in pre-teens and teenagers

Sexuality is a part of who your child is and who they’ll become. Sexuality develops and changes throughout your child’s life. It’s natural for this to be sometimes confusing and challenging for your child. It might take time for your child to feel comfortable with their sexuality and sexual identity.

Talking with you about sex and sexuality will help your child sort through the many messages they get about sexuality from other sources. It can also help your child make positive, safe and informed choices, now and in the future.

For more information

  • Sexuality: pre-teens and teenagers
  • Relationships and romance: pre-teens and teenagers
  • Respectful romantic relationships: pre-teens and teenagers
  • Childhood sexual development and sexual behaviour: 10-11 years
  • Teenage sexual development and sexual behaviour: 12-14 years
  • Teenage sexual development and sexual behaviour: 15-17 years
  • Consent and sexual consent: talking with children and teenagers
  • Getting and giving sexual consent: talking with teenagers

Gender attitudes and identity in pre-teens and teenagers

Healthy attitudes to gender might include things like understanding that gender can be fluid, recognising gender stereotypes, and accepting people of all genders. When pre-teens and teenagers have healthy attitudes to gender, they’re more likely to behave in safe, respectful and nonjudgmental ways at school, on sporting fields, in workplaces and so on.

Safe, respectful and nonjudgmental environments help pre-teens and teenagers of all genders develop well, learn, be themselves and thrive.

For more information

  • Healthy attitudes to gender: children and teenagers
  • Gender identity, gender diversity and gender dysphoria: children and teenagers
  • Gender identity, diversity and dysphoria: supporting your child
  • When your child is trans or gender diverse: family feelings

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