Managing screen time: children 3-11 years

Strategies for managing screen time and digital technology use

Screen time and digital technology use can be part of a healthy lifestyle when children balance these things with other activities.

To achieve a healthy approach to screen time and digital technology use, you might need strategies for managing screen time. For children aged 3-11 years, these strategies might include:

family rules
routines
transitions
choices.

Your choices about screen time and digital technology use influence the way your child uses screens. By using digital technology in healthy, balanced ways, you can be a role model for healthy screen habits.

Family rules for screen time and digital technology use

Family rules about screen time and digital technology use can help your child understand your family’s limits and expectations. For very young children, it’s a good idea to keep the rules simple and brief. For older children, you could make these rules part of a formal agreement that you and your child discuss, negotiate and sign.

These questions can help you negotiate screen time in your family:

How can your child use digital technology? For example, to play a puzzle app or make animations but not to watch online videos?
Do you want limits on screen time? Will these limits apply on weekends or holidays? What about tech-free days?
When is it OK for your child to use digital technology? For example, after piano practice or after dinner?
Do your children need to ask you before using digital technology?
Where can your child use digital technology? For example, in family rooms but not bedrooms?
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Making the rules
It’s important to involve all family members when you’re making family rules about screen time. Your rules should be flexible enough to cover school days, weekends and holidays. The rules also need to reflect changing needs and interests as your child grows.

It’s a good idea to revisit the rules every few months and whenever you introduce a new device into your home. This helps you ensure the rules are still meeting everyone’s needs.

Breaking the rules
Sometimes your child might break the rules you’ve agreed on. For example, your child might use the tablet without asking first. You can discuss and agree on consequences for these situations. For example, the consequence for using the tablet without asking might be no tablet for a day.

Routines and screen time

Routines give children structure and help them know what to do, when and how often. This means routines can help you build screen time and digital technology use into your family life in a way that suits you and your family.

For example, if you want to put limits on screen time, you can make this part of a routine. After talking about it with your children, you might decide your child can watch TV or use the tablet, but only between 5 and 6 pm. Or your routine might include just one program before dinner, or whatever suits your family.

Routines can also help you minimise conflict about screen time. For example, if you don’t want your child to use digital technology in the car, you might have a car routine that involves listening to music or family-friendly podcasts or playing ‘I spy’.

Screen time transitions

Your child might find it hard to stop watching TV or playing on the tablet, especially if they’re having a good time. Planning transitions to other activities together can make things easier.

Here are tips:

Make sure your child understands your expectations about a screen time session before the session starts. You could say, ‘You can watch one program’, or ‘You can play until it’s bath time’.
Choose your timing. If you can, get your child to stop using digital technology at a natural break. For example, try to plan bath time for when your child has finished a level in a game or when a TV show ends.
Give your child a warning when it’s almost time to stop. For example, ‘Sam, it’s time to switch the TV off at the end of the program’, or ‘Sam, you have 10 more minutes on the tablet’.
Give your child time to save what they’re doing. You could offer to help. For example, ‘Ali, it’s time to stop using the computer now. Do you want me to help you save what you’re doing?’

Some streaming services play the next episode or show automatically. This can make it harder for your child to switch off at the end of an episode because they might not realise that it has finished. Check your service to see whether you can switch off this feature.

Choices about screen time and digital technology use

If your child has choices about screen time and digital technology use as well as input into your family’s screen time rules, your child is more likely to cooperate with the rules and limits.

Also, making choices from a range of healthy and high-quality options helps your child learn how to manage screen time independently in the future.

Here are things your child could choose:

What to watch or do – for example, ‘Do you want to watch Play School or Sesame Street today?’ or ‘Do you want to work on your animation or play your puzzle app?’
When to use digital technology – for example, ‘Do you want to use the tablet after school or after dinner today?’
How to break up screen time – for example, ‘Do you want to use a timer, or take a break when you finish the level?’ or ‘Are you going to jog on the spot or do star jumps when you finish the level?’

One of the keys is encouraging your child to make choices about screen time based on quality. Here are ways to do this:

Talk with your child about what makes a good-quality app, game, TV show or movie.
Share screen time with your child – for example, play a game or watch a TV program with your child and talk about why it’s good quality.
Ask your child whether they think they’ve chosen good-quality content and why they think it’s good quality.

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