Trans or gender-diverse children: specialist care for affirming gender

Children and teenagers who want or need to affirm their gender

If your child identifies as a gender that’s different from their presumed gender based on the sex they were given at birth, your child might want or need to affirm their gender.

For many trans or gender-diverse children and teenagers, affirming their gender is about openly acknowledging the gender that they already feel themselves to be.

Some trans or gender-diverse children and teenagers experience gender dysphoria. For them, affirming their gender is essential for their health and wellbeing.

You and your child can get support and information by talking with a GP, psychologist, mental health social worker or counsellor who has experience in working with gender-diverse children.

Gender-affirming care: first steps

If your child wants to affirm their gender or you’re worried that your child has gender dysphoria, going to your GP is a good first step. The GP can give you information and a referral to a psychologist or the specialist gender service in your state or territory.

It’s OK to seek a second opinion if your GP or psychologist doesn’t know a lot about the needs of children who are questioning their gender, experiencing gender dysphoria or wanting to affirm their gender.

Gender-affirming care depends on children’s individual needs. It will focus on your child’s physical and psychological wellbeing and aim to support them as they affirm their gender. Gender-affirming care also depends on children’s stage of development.

Before puberty: options for affirming gender

If your child hasn’t reached puberty, the professionals supporting your child might:

work with your family to help you understand your child’s experience and support your child
support your child to understand their gender
support your child to affirm their gender socially.

During puberty: options for affirming gender identity

Once puberty has started, options include the following:

Information and family therapy – this can help you understand your child’s experience and support your child.
Psychological support like psychotherapy – this can help your child explore their gender and cope with challenges like bullying, self-esteem issues or mental health difficulties.
Voice coaching or speech therapy – this can improve your child’s confidence if they feel their voice contributes to them being misgendered.
Medical support – this can help your child affirm their gender and reduce their gender dysphoria, where appropriate.

Medical support for affirming gender

For some children who want to affirm their gender, medical support can help to reduce the distress associated with physical aspects of their bodies.

If this sounds like your child, your child will need to have a comprehensive medical and mental health assessment before health professionals will consider or recommend medical support. It’s also important for them to be involved in decisions about medical support.

Once puberty has begun, the main options for medical support are:

medicines
hormone treatment.

Medicines

Depending on the stage of puberty, medicines can put puberty on hold or reduce the changes of puberty. The aim of these treatments is to reduce your child’s distress about gender and improve their wellbeing.

Puberty blockers are medicines that block the progression of puberty. The effects of puberty blockers can be reversed.

If puberty is nearly finished, there are medicines that can change the way your child’s body functions and reduce their emotional distress. For example, some medicines can stop periods.

Hormone treatment

Gender-affirming hormone treatment can change your child’s body so that it’s more consistent with your child’s gender. It might be appropriate for some older teenagers. It has some irreversible effects.

Treatment for trans or gender-diverse children should never involve trying to make them cisgender. This is called conversion therapy, and it can cause severe psychological damage to children.

Looking after yourself

You might have mixed and varied emotions about your child affirming their gender, so it’s important to look after yourself.

Here are things you can do:

Talk to supportive family and friends. Other parents of trans or gender-diverse children can also be a good source of support and information.
Talk to your GP, who can refer you to a mental health professional. If your GP isn’t supportive, a gender clinic can recommend another GP for you.
Get in touch with a parent support group like Transcend, Parents of Gender Diverse Children or Transforming Families. These groups can connect you with other families who’ve experienced or are experiencing challenges adapting to their child’s gender.
Get in touch with support services and resources like Transforming Families or Minus 18.
Be kind to yourself, and acknowledge the effort you’re making to support your child.

Gender care and the law

In some states and territories in Australia, trying to change or suppress a person’s sexuality or gender is illegal. This means that it’s against the law for a parent or anyone else to send a child to a program, therapy or counselling designed to stop them from being LGBTQ+, even if the child agrees or asks to go. In some states and territories, it’s also against the law to place pressure on a child to change or hide their sexuality or gender.