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What is neonatal death?

Neonatal death is when a baby dies within the first 28 days of life. Whether a baby dies soon after birth or after surviving a few weeks, it’s a very difficult experience for the whole family.

A baby might die for many reasons in the first 4 weeks after birth. For example, the baby might have been born prematurely, had congenital anomalies (birth defects) or become sick with an infection. Or there might have been complications in labour. And sometimes we just don’t know why.

Your baby’s death can bring intense feelings of grief, emptiness, anger, anxiety and depression. It’s OK to feel however you feel – there’s no one or right way to respond.

Spending time with your baby

Spending time with your baby creates memories and lets you acknowledge your baby as part of your family. Remembering and sharing these memories over time helps some people grieve. How you make memories of your baby is up to you and your family.

It’s OK for you to take as long as you need. Try not to feel pressured by other people’s expectations or experiences.

Spending time with your baby from birth
If you’ve been told your baby is unlikely to survive beyond 4 weeks, you can still spend time together from the moment your baby is born.

Neonatal nurses and midwives can help you hold and cuddle your baby and spend as much time as possible as a family together.

You might name your baby and take photos together. And if you have other children, you might give them the chance to meet their sibling and have photos taken together as a family.

Spending time with your baby after they’ve died
When your baby dies, the staff will make sure you can spend time with your baby. You might spend this time holding and cuddling your baby. Neonatal nurses and midwives can also help you to dress, bathe and take photos of your baby.

You might be able to spend a few days with your baby or take your baby home for a while. Most hospitals have special cold cots for this purpose. You can ask your midwife about this option.

A neonatal death might affect other members of your family – children, grandparents and other relatives. You can decide whether you want to invite them to spend time with your baby.

Midwives, doctors, nurses, social workers, pastoral carers, bereavement midwives and funeral directors will help you with the things you need and want to do after your baby’s death. This includes organising a funeral.

Most hospitals will help you put photos, footprints and a lock of your baby’s hair into a memory box. You can take this box home with you when you leave the hospital. Some hospitals might be able to look after this box for you until you feel ready to collect it. Or you can ask a trusted family member or friend to collect it for you.

Moving your baby to the funeral home

Your hospital and chosen funeral directors will coordinate your baby’s move to a funeral home. Your baby will be cared for with dignity and respect.

While your baby is at the funeral home, you can still visit your baby up until the burial or cremation. Speak to your funeral director, who can arrange this for you.

For birthing mothers: your body after neonatal death

Bleeding
After birth, you might have some vaginal bleeding for 5-10 days. This can last up to 6 weeks. This is normal. It’s important to see a GP or an obstetrician if you have:

  • heavy bleeding that doesn’t stop
  • severe abdominal cramps
  • signs of a fever.

Milk production and breast soreness
After your baby dies, it can be a few weeks before your breasts stop producing milk. This can be physically and emotionally difficult time. There are medicines for managing breast discomfort or suppressing milk supply if you need them. Your midwife, GP or obstetrician will help you with this.

If your breasts are comfortable during this period, there’s no need to express. Expressing will stimulate breastmilk supply and make it take longer for your breasts to stop producing milk.

But if your breasts are swollen, hard and painful, you’ll need to express over a few days. Express just enough to keep your breasts comfortable, and slowly reduce the amount of milk you express each day.

If you have breast pain, swelling, warmth, fever and chills, it’s important to see a GP. This might be the beginnings of mastitis, which is an inflammation of the breast that can lead to an infection. Gently massaging any lumps or expressing a small amount of milk can help with this.

It’s possible to donate frozen breastmilk to milk banks to feed premature babies. Speak to your nurse or midwife if this is something you’d like to do.

Understanding why your baby died

Your doctor might ask if you’d like to have an autopsy done on your baby to find out more about why your baby died. Knowing why a baby died helps some people grieve. The information might also help doctors give you advice about future pregnancies.

Sometimes an autopsy won’t be able to tell you why your baby died. Even if the autopsy can’t explain your baby’s death, knowing you tried to find out why your baby died can be reassuring.

It can be hard to decide about having an autopsy done on your baby. It’s your choice. Midwives, doctors, nurses, social workers and pastoral carers can explain your options and support you as you decide what’s best.

Getting help after stillbirth

It can help to talk to a trusted family member or friend about your loss. And if you feel you aren’t coping, you might need professional help too.

See your GP, a counsellor or a community spiritual leader, if you have one. A social worker at the hospital or your GP can help you find a local counselling service.

You can also get support by calling:

  • Red Nose Grief and Loss on 1300 308 307
  • Bears of Hope on 1300 114 673
  • MensLine Australia on 1300 789 978
  • Lifeline on 131 114.

Legal information about neonatal death

By law, all neonatal deaths in Australia must be registered with Births Deaths and Marriages in your state or territory. Visit your state or territory’s Births Deaths and Marriages website for more information. The hospital will give you the documents you need to register your baby’s birth and death.

In most states and territories in Australia, it’s also a legal requirement to arrange a burial or cremation for your baby.

In some cases, your baby’s death might require a coroner’s investigation to find out the cause of death. Hospital staff will guide you through this process if it needs to happen.

If your baby has died, you might be eligible for financial support from Services Australia.

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