You’re pregnant: many and mixed emotions
If I was to sum up my initial reaction to being pregnant I’d say, shock, fear and excitement. We had discussed starting to try for a baby. It’s something we both wanted but had chickened out for a couple of months. I think we were both just a little apprehensive about something so life changing!
My first reaction to being pregnant was ‘Surely the stick is wrong’, quickly followed by pure joy. I was convinced it would take us years to get pregnant, and am aware of how lucky we are that it only took a few months.
You might have started to feel physically different. For example, you might be experiencing nausea, vomiting, fatigue, headaches and bloating. These physical changes can affect how you feel about being pregnant. It’s always a good idea to talk to your doctor or midwife about any pregnancy symptoms.
Positive ways to manage your feelings about being pregnant
- Imagine what your baby will be like and start bonding with them during pregnancy. You can sing or chat to your baby – baby can hear you. You can also gently rub your belly.
- Think about what being a parent means to you and what sort of parent you’d like to be.
- If you have a partner, it’s a good idea to discuss what’s important to you when it comes to raising your children.
- Prepare for changes in your relationship with your partner during pregnancy. Communicating with your partner is an important part of this.
- Look after yourself by eating well, staying active, resting when you can, managing stress and taking time to do things that you enjoy. You might need to make lifestyle changes like quitting smoking or avoiding alcohol. Staying healthy and well helps you give your baby what they need to grow and thrive in the womb and after birth.
- Learn about pregnancy and what your baby needs after birth by talking with your doctor or midwife and booking birth classes. You can also read our articles on pregnancy and newborns. Building your parenting knowledge can boost your confidence and help you prepare for becoming a parent.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s important to talk to someone you trust like your partner, a family relative or friend, or your doctor or midwife. You can also call the national Perinatal Anxiety and Depression Australia (PANDA) helpline on 1300 726 306 or the Pregnancy, Birth and Baby helpline on 1800 882 436.
Getting help for difficult feelings about being pregnant
If there are problems in your relationship, including family violence, talk to your doctor or midwife, or call the National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service on 1800 737 732 (1800RESPECT). They can help you get support so that you and your baby stay safe.