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When caring for a toddler, it is normal to experience a range of feelings. Sometimes you may be enjoying your toddler and having fun, but other times you may be stressed or finding things challenging.

It is important to remember that you and your toddler are connected emotionally. The way you feel shows in your body language, face and voice, and these things influence your toddler’s feelings and behaviour, and the connection goes both ways.

Your toddler’s feelings can also have a big impact on you. Your toddler is still learning about their feelings. They need you to support them with this. If you take some time to care for your feelings, you will be better able to support your toddler with theirs.

Here are 5 things you can do each day to care for your feelings as a parent.

Check your thoughts. Notice any negative thoughts that are going through your mind. Acknowledging negative thoughts doesn’t always take them away, but being more aware of them means that they will have less impact on you.

Assist yourself. Think of ways you can assist yourself to stay calm. Perhaps you could take 3 big, deep breaths. Breathe in slowly for 3  seconds, pause and then out for 3 seconds – letting go of tension in your body. Try to relax the parts of your body that are tense or do something else that relaxes you – like listening to music, going for a walk or calling a friend. You are showing your toddler how to care for their feelings when you care for your own.

Reassure yourself. Give yourself good messages that will help you feel calm and ready to be with your toddler. Remember times from the past when you felt confident as a parent or when you and your toddler were feeling happy together.

Thinking about these times when you are feeling sad or overwhelmed can give you reassurance and hope that things will get better.

Notice your emotions. Notice the feelings that you are having and any sensations or tensions in your body. Becoming more aware of your emotions will help you to listen and accept them. Talking out loud about your emotions can help too, and it is also great role-modelling for your toddler.

Sensitive and soothing. Above all, be kind, sensitive and soothing to yourself. You are important and you need to show yourself kindness.

By caring for your own feelings as a parent, you’ll be better able to help your toddler grow in a way that is healthy and happy, which will give them the best start in life.