Patting settling technique

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Rhythmic, gentle patting can help settle young babies into sleep. Here’s how to do it:

1. Face your baby away from you.
2. Place your hand gently on your baby’s shoulder. 
3. Cup your other hand and pat your baby gently and slowly on the bottom or thigh. 
4. Make the patting as rhythmic as possible. 
5. Sing a quiet, soothing song to help you find your rhythm. Your baby won’t mind if you’re out of tune or don’t know the words! If you think that your singing might disturb your baby, sing or count in your head to help keep your patting steady.

Try double-patting. Sometimes two hands are better than one. To do this:

1. Keep patting your baby’s bottom or thigh and then start patting the shoulder with your other hand.
2. Alternate the pats in a rhythmic way.
3. As your baby starts to settle and relax, slow down your hand movements. Once your baby is quiet, stop patting but leave your hands on your baby for a few more seconds.

Another option is patting the mattress beside your baby, or even jiggling the cot slightly. Experiment and see what works for your baby.

If nothing seems to be working, and you start to feel angry or distressed, it’s best to leave your baby in the cot. Walk away and take a moment to get calm yourself. It won’t hurt your baby to cry for a short time.

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