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Posted 30/04/2012 4:47:11 PM
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My 8 yr old son doesn't play with his classmates during recess and lunch times. Instead
he prefers to wander/walk around the school by himself.
On the odd occasion, he will play with 1 or 2 friends.

I ask him why he doesn't play with his classmates, and he says some times he doesn't feel like playing with them.

He'll spend 3-4 days, playing by himself at school.

Is this normal?
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Posted 6/05/2012 11:13:55 PM
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My son is also 8 and does not have a close friend at present at school. It is partly due to a close friend being put in another class at school when the class groups were decided for this year. hE is still able to play with the friends at recess time and lunch time when the class time is not in. I have talked about this with other friends and they say there are times when they don't have a close friend due due other interests and changes that happen along the way. I encourage my son to try and make a new friend in his class this year. He does talk about who he likes. the composite school class system does not help here but we can only encourage them to make the best of the situation. I did also talk to the teacher at the beginning of the year as I found out that one of my son's friends was moved to another class. My son was abit upset and I wanted to know why.That is my experience with tbis so far.
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Posted 17/05/2012 9:12:40 AM
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My son is also 8 and does not have a close friend at present at school. It is partly due to a close friend being put in another class at school when the class groups were decided for this year. hE is still able to play with the friends at recess time and lunch time when the class time is not in. I have talked about this with other friends and they say there are times when they don't have a close friend due due other interests and changes that happen along the way. I encourage my son to try and make a new friend in his class this year. He does talk about who he likes. the composite school class system does not help here but we can only encourage them to make the best of the situation. I did also talk to the teacher at the beginning of the year as I found out that one of my son's friends was moved to another class. My son was abit upset and I wanted to know why.That is my experience with tbis so far.


Thks cb1266. I hope my son can grow out of this "isolation". My fear is whether he has some behavioural problem that makes it hard for him to mix with other kids, making him a social outcast. He seems normal when playing with kids that come over to our house. If he makes & plays with regular friends at school, at least, he will enjoy going to school.
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Posted 17/05/2012 10:50:50 PM
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I would consult with a specialist, perhaps one they provide at school not to miss the stage when it's not normal any more.
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Posted 2/08/2012 2:30:28 PM
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Hi there,
I think if your son seems happy and doesn't worry about it then I wouldn't make it into an issue. Perhaps if you have a general chat about friendships and find out what his view on friends is. One strategy might be to organise a play date every few weeks with other boys in his class, this might help strengthen relationships with individual kids. Your son might prefer just playing with one other child anyway, and will play on his own if this isn't an option. Good luck
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