Print Email
 
Welcome Guest ( Login | Register )
Forums Guide Disclaimer
 
Please help us maintain the quality of these forums by respecting the Terms of Use and by reporting any misuse to the moderator.
 


Child refusing contact. What to do? Expand / Collapse
Author
Message
Posted 1/02/2012 3:20:36 PM
Supreme Being

Supreme BeingSupreme BeingSupreme BeingSupreme BeingSupreme BeingSupreme BeingSupreme BeingSupreme Being

Group: Forum Members
Last Login: 7/09/2013 8:19:00 AM
Posts: 100, Visits: 1,428
Removed due to shushing
Post #66135
Posted 7/02/2012 12:27:51 AM
Junior Member

Junior MemberJunior MemberJunior MemberJunior MemberJunior MemberJunior MemberJunior MemberJunior Member

Group: Forum Members
Last Login: 21/02/2014 12:16:22 AM
Posts: 18, Visits: 159
Hi Urbanhomestead,

it seems to me that you answered your own question. you are not prepared to force this young fellow to see his mum. he's dead set against it. the caseworker might be able to persuade him to but, truth be told, she can't force him either. in the unlikely event that someone from CS tried to grab any of my foster kids physically and drag them off with me as witness, i'd have them charged with assault. and they'd deserve it. personally i think there are often good reasons for kids to stay in touch with their parents but it's not up to me or you or a caseworker to 'force' a child to see a parent. remember, you can still help him even if you can't be 'the boss' of the final outcome, listen to him and let him know you care, keep passing information on to his caseworker. let the caseworker deal with the situation if they are experienced and committed enough to be trusted. they'll be able to help him work out what his real feelings are. if you think they're bullying him in any way, get onto the casework manager and if she/he doesn't respond/help just keep going higher until your concerns are heard. it's definitely your role to advocate on his behalf.

i know how difficult it isto be close to a child who's feeling so much pain. i wish you all the love and wisdom in the world as you help this young fellow through.
Post #66270
« Prev Topic | Next Topic »


Permissions Expand / Collapse

All times are GMT +10:00, Time now is 4:49am


Important! The content of these forums is not quality-assured by the Raising Children Network. Please help us maintain the quality of these forums by reporting any misuse to the administrator.