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Two things I want to share.

1. I've had a mixed relationship with my own mother. She has always seemed to feel my sisters are more in need of emotional support than I. Eg, I often have to listen to tales as how my sisters are. Rarely asked "how are you?"

For mother's day I've long taken to taking mother out some where(local cafe, and such). Often on a day around mother's day. This is so we both have to focus on listening to each other, rather than be disrated by other's needs.

2. My son's mother died some years ago. I use to try and force them in some act of remeberance, ie, go to her old work place, grave, give flowers to some other mother figure in their lives or some such. But my sons have been clear that this isn't necessary/ wanted.

I now figure if I can get all 3 sons together (oldest is an adult) I've done my bit. We having dinner together on Sunday night. I can then claim the rest of the day for me (I do get to play both mother and father however inadequately). So I'm going on a bike ride along the bayside with friends. Some pretty women amongst them. I like that. 

"The key is to keep company with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best."
Elizabeth Willet