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| I was 18 when I fell pregnet with my son he was born 5 days before my 19th birthday... I can relate to other people expressing there disaproval of me being a young Mum. I still get it now even though I'm now 24 and my son is 5yrs old. It's tough but I do my best to ignore other people points of views and stay focused on the task at hand, raising my son!! Good to hear I'm not the only one who finds this 
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hey kristie i am a young mum when i had my first child i was 17 when i had him i am now 24 and never look back i would rather be a young mummy then and old hag dropping my kids off at school and like you imbrass you children they ask to be dropped around the corner you know what i mean so cheer up you are not alone hope to hear back from you clare
clare yummy mummy
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Hi girls, first of all congratulations on your beautiful children! Secondly, who's to say those people aren't staring at you out of admiration? When you're a minority it can feel like people are singling you out and judging you negatively, but it's important to feel confident with the life you've chosen and to project serenity and self-assurance. That's the greatest repellant of judgemental people, I've found.
I became a mum at 20 and now that I'm older, people can (and do) still add up! The sooner you learn not to let that bother you, the better. As my children have become older (the eldest is now 11), I've been surprised at how many people have said they looked up to me or that I've been an inspiration to them. You probably won't hear those comments for the first few years, but they will start to come eventually. Until then, just knowing you are doing an excellent job raising your babies into wonderful people is enough to give you the strength to laugh off any nasty looks or comments. Good luck!
Oh, and also, my daughter is sooooo proud to have the youngest parents of all the kids in her class
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| I work with alot of young parents, the youngest i have seen is 13. People should keep their thoughts to themselves its important not to let that weigh on you. Like vegemite. Some people love it and think those that dont are weird and vice-versa. Its not personal, it says more about them then you.
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hey kristie lou i and now 25 i was 18 when i had my first child and i ghot the same responce you did and its not right i work my arse off to look after my children and i am currently not working at the momment as i have a 11 mths old baby girl and the first years are the best they do everything so dont worry to much hunny talk soon clare
clare yummy mummy
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| I find the same thing. I was 18 when my son was born... He has just turned 6 now! I'm a very proud single Mum! As my son was growing I found alot of very judgemental, and I still do. It's hard to avoid as well as my son has special needs. I still feel very judged for being a young single Mum. As I live in a fairly small town it's not easy being a young Mum.
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| I was 16 with my 1st 18 with my second and am currently 20 and have just given birth t my 3rd im happy with my little family and love being such a young mum i get alot of people look at me as if to say are they really all hers and if so she must be crazy. I also have 2 step children. I just ignore all the snide comments and looks as far as im concerned i have the life i wanted and nothing makes me happier then my children :-)
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| hi all , age has nothing to do with maturity i think a huge part of being a good parent is maturity . meaning you are mature enough to balance and prioritise whats best for your child versus your own wants and desires . its important for your child that you are happy , but your main focus should be whats best for your child . thats the responsibility that comes with being a parent . but maturity has nothing to do with age . and there is no reason why age should determine whether your a capable parent or not . i work in a pub and i see examples of people not putting their childs needs ahead of their own fun almost every day , and none of those parents are young . it makes me pretty cross sometimes . some of the situations ive seen children involved in because of the selfishness and lack of consideration shown by their parents , is absolutely disgusting . and a lot of those situations involved " older" parents . i was the youngest one of my friends to become a dad , and i would say i am the most child focussed father i know . i know im a good father , but im always working on being a great one . always new things to learn and new skills to try . my son has a condition called aspergers syndrome , so im constantly learning new things from him and others about being a good dad . but , unfortunately you cant change peoples perceptions . some people are always gonna think young mums are irresponsible , just the same as i often get made to feel from people that they expect me to be disinterested and not involved with my son because im a single dad . but those peoples perceptions dont mean anything . at the end of the day , the only peoples opinions who should matter are the people you love . especially your children .
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| Hi, I just want to tell you to ignore them. I understand completely what u are going through. I was 19 when I had my first baby 9 (i miscarried at 18) and I was 21 when I had my second baby. I am now pregnant with baby number 6 and am 33 years old. I am still with the father of my first child, and all the children are his. By ignoring these other people u are showing that you are a better person than them and u dont have a problem, they do. Take care
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