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Mother's Day

redleaves — Sun, 13 May 2012 11:50:33 GMT

Sending a message out there to have a nice day to all those Mum's who, like me, don't have a mother to. spend the day with.

Hugs and happiness to you all.

looking for a faimly day care-

Naom — Wed, 09 May 2012 11:09:47 GMT

Hi Mums,

I am moving to North parramatta. and I am new in Sydney.we moved here few weeks back. I have a two year old son and i am looking for a family day care for him, where i could send him 3--4 hrs a day twice or thrice a week. but i haven't come across any good one.

Dear moms could you please recommend me something way better ? Anything around north parramatta-

Thanks,
Regards
Nadia

Change baby's name

San Suju Sim — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 05:06:18 GMT

How can I change baby's name ? Please kindly advice

Help for a busy mums like me!

Amanda Davies72 — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 20:34:24 GMT

Recently I have been frustrating with one part of my week. The part of where i need to think of something to cook every night.

I love cooking but to put it simply, I don't have the time or creativity to constantly think of what to cook. (except Saturdays!).

Anyway I wanted to share this web site that so far i have fallen in love with! THey plan meals each week and deliver the ingredients to your house, so all you need to do is cook it!

http://thedinnerplanners.com.au

Hoping someone finds this helpful =)

Oh. i think they are only a sydney company though...

Mand

growing pains

dad23 — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 23:27:11 GMT

has anyone else's children suffered from growing pains ?
my partners daughter is suffering from them at the moment , it is usually pain behind her knees or in her calves . it is quite painful and not much we can do for her . just wondering if anyone had experienced this and if they knew of any good ways to help the child . it usually occurs at night or late in the day . cheers for your help [Smile]

My daughter is 1 and loves the website ABC3 (try it!)

ruppfmr — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 20:19:46 GMT

Does anyone know of any sites where she can do some age appropriate activities such as games, letters of alphabet, numbers, puzzles, girly/fun stuff etc?
www.abcgameskids.com

New Memember

MummyToA&D — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 20:50:39 GMT

Hi everyone!

Its been a few years since i have been on a parenting forum, but i always did enjoy them.

I am new to this forum, and what brings me here is i want to discuss some topics around my daughter and her possible Aspergers diagnosis as i am not comfortable discussing it in RL or with family or friends yet untill we know for sure.

Its not that i am ashamed or anything, please do not think that! if you knoew my family sitaution you'd understand why they have been kept in the dark, as for friends, i wish to not burden them with possible diagnosis' at this point. I want to get my head around the whole thing first. I hope you can understand that?

As for a bit about me, I am almost 25years of age, i have a daughter who is 5 and in Prep and a 2.5 year old son. I work part-time as a youth worker. I am engaged to the father of both children and consider myself lucky to have a great partner.

I live in SE Melbourne. I have dreams to run my own young mothers group in the near future.

Thanks for listening (reading).

Sam.

Tell us your story- health professionals keen to learn from patients, families and community

LizaShaw — Wed, 29 Feb 2012 10:08:55 GMT

The Chronic Diseases Network holds a conference each year, and the title of this year’s conference is ‘Promoting Healthy Childhood – Preventing Chronic Conditions’. The Conference will be held at Darwin Convention Centre on September 20 – 21^st 2012.

The 2011 Chronic Diseases Network Conference held a ‘consumer perspectives’ session, in which those attending had the opportunity to attend four presentations by people with chronic conditions relevant to the conference theme. These presentations were described as a highlight of the conference by some. For this reason, the 2012 conference is hoping to once again have a consumer perspectives session.

The 2012 conference will explore the range of factors during the early years that contribute to chronic conditions later in life. Chronic diseases can be the result of influences during pregnancy, childhood, or adolescence. Influences on chronic conditions later in life include, but are not limited to, whether a mother smokes in pregnancy, a child’s diet and level of physical activity, exposure to domestic violence, parenting, and social determinants of health such as level of schooling, and the socioeconomic status of the family.

The Chronic Disease Network conference organising committee invites consumers to consider submitting an Abstract. Potential presentations may be perspectives of parents or carers of children, of strategies used to prevent or self manage chronic conditions later in life. Consider also influences in the womb, such as where conditions in pregnancy (eg. high blood pressure or diabetes) impact on future childhood health.

The Chronic Diseases Network conference committees are available to provide support to those presenting for the first time. This may be in the form of assistance in developing a PowerPoint presentation or coaching with the planning and delivery of a presentation.

The conference website has further details, including abstract submission forms: www.cdnconference.com.au

Mother of 2yr old and wife of defence member. North Parramatta

CarlieNIndigo — Sun, 19 Feb 2012 14:48:26 GMT

Hi there

I have recently moved to North Parramatta and would love to get to know mothers in the surrounding area. My husband is in the defence force and is away quite a bit. I'm still yet to find a mothers group near-by, and because i don't drive it does make it a little difficult to get around. My daughter Indigo and i do enjoy a walk though, so if anyone knows of a mothers ground in Parramatta or North Parramatta, that would be great!

Thanks, Carlie.

Cyber bullying

lisathatslife — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 11:07:56 GMT

A leading women's magazine wants to speak to a teenage girl and her mum about her experience of being the victim of cyber bullying on Facebook.

If your life was made hell by people you didn't even know or people you thought you were friends with, we want to hear from you.

We have a tight deadline (please contact me by 26/7/11) if you want to take part. We offer a read back before the article goes to print and a payment.

Contact me on lisa.woollard@pacificmags.com.au with a contact number for you, a brief outline of your story and your name and age.

Looking for other moms with toddlers who want to meet for a play

nezhmineumann — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 15:31:46 GMT

I am newish to Brisbane and am looking for others who want to get together with their kids to have a play and chat. I have a 14 month old son. We are sorta hippy-dippy and are looking for other like-minded people to hang out with. We live in Newmarket and would love to hear from anyone who is interested.

cheers.

Hello

Google — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 20:09:00 GMT

Thought I would stop in and say hello, my name is Samantha and I am moving to Australia in November. I am from the US but my husband is from Australia and we have a baby that was born Oct 14th 2011.

I also have 4 other children ages 15,13,11,and 4 I am a baby wearing, breast feeding, co- sleeping, anti circ, non vax mama that hopes to meet other like me. Look forward to spending time here.

Autism Survey

sboone — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 06:12:47 GMT

Dear Parent:
We are seeking volunteers to participate in a research study about what it’s like to grow up with a sibling who has autism. Do you meet the following requirements?
1. Are you the parent of at least two children?
2. Does one of your children have an autism spectrum disorder?
3. Does one of your children not have an autism spectrum disorder?
4. Is your child without autism between the ages of 8 and 18 years?
If so, please consider volunteering by clicking on the link below. The survey will take approximately 45 minutes to complete and may be taken at a computer of your choice that has internet access. The first part of the survey will be taken by you. The second part will be taken by your child that does not have an autism spectrum disorder.
If you would like to volunteer to take this survey, please click on https://www.psychdata.com/s.asp?SID=144893
and read the consent information at the beginning of the survey. We will not collect your name or that of your child. However, there is a potential risk of loss of confidentiality in all email, downloading, and internet transactions.
If you have any questions, please contact Kathy DeOrnellas, Ph.D., Principal Investigator at kdeornellasphd@gmail.com or 940-898-2315 at Texas Woman’s University.
Thank you,
Kathy DeOrnellas, Ph.D.

appropriate clothing for girls aged 7 years +

my daughter is not a tween — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 18:59:55 GMT

Hi all I am a mother to two gorgeous girls who has become extremely frustrated at trying to find nice, appropriate clothing for my eldest daughter now that she has entered the dreaded 7 years+ range. Why is it that the major retailers feel that it is appropriate to dress our 7 and 8 year olds in the same clothing as 14 year olds? If you are like me and are sick of short shorts, t-shirts with dreadful slogans and a lack of colours and pretty dresses for our girls then please join my cause by liking my page "My daughter is not a tween" on facebook. I know that this is not a new issue and that there are some nice clothing out there but my hope is that if we can get enough people to show their support then maybe just maybe the major retailers will offer a better range of choices for our girls. I am not a perfect mum and I am definitely not a fashion guru I am just trying to let my girls be girls a little longer and make it easier to find clothing that they are able to play in, is colourful and modest and most importantly makes them look like kids not extras in a music video. Thanks.

how to go about finding an egg donor??

hollyjj — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 12:32:15 GMT

my husband and i are in the process of trying to find a generous women to donate her eggs to us as we are unable to concieve a child without their help -

i am wanting to know from those couples who have used egg donors how they went about it, did they advertise, if so where abouts, how long before you found her and any other advice that you could offer on this subject

any advice would be great, thanks

would you consider helping an infertile couple?

pisces00 — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 05:41:55 GMT

i am trying to help a couple who, after years of unsuccessful ivf treatments, are now needing the help of a compassionate, healthy woman who would consider donating her eggs. This happily married couple would do anything to be able to change a dirty nappy at 3am, be sleep deprived and know all the words to the Wiggles just so they could have a child of thier own.

If you have any queries, please PM me.

all responses willbe treated with the utmost confidentiality.

Edited by moderator to remove email address for privacy purposes.

Any one child families?

splishy — Tue, 09 Oct 2007 12:32:24 GMT

Hello,
My husband and I are only having one child, she is 112 monthsold and I would like to meet some other mums out there doing the same thing. I feel like we are the only ones.

Rude or what?

C'sMama — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 19:23:22 GMT

Hi there,

Please forgive me if I am asking a blatant stupid question, but I am going overseas in 2 weeks and start FREAKING OUT about little things.
I have a 6 months old who will be in a bassinet on the longhaul flight.
Question: would you as a fellow passenger find it offensive (regardless if you are a parent or not) if I'd change a Nr2 in the bassinet rather than squeeze in the small toilet, where the change table is so slippery and baby flies 3m in the air with every bounce of the aircraft???
Mmmmmmhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

School project

Karen Zahra — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 12:23:03 GMT

My name is Karen Zahra, I am a year 12 student at Holy Spirit College studying Community and Family Studies (CAFS) doing and Independent Research Study (IRP) on support networks for teenage mothers. If you could answer a few questions for me it would be greatly appreciated. If you are willing to, you can email me to karenzahra@gmail.com and i will send you the questions.

What's in a Name? Research Project: The significance of Surnames and Personal Names to Australian Parents

researchmum — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 11:34:42 GMT

Hi

We would like to invite you to participate in our online survey for parents on family names and personal names. We believe this will be of great interest to you.

You will find the survey at:

www.whatsinanameaus.wordpress.com

The survey will help us answer the following questions about contemporary family life. How do women decide whether to keep or change their surname when they get married? How do couples decide on their children's first names and surnames? What issues of belonging or identity do these decisions raise for parents? We know very little about what Australian women or men think about this topic.

Participation is confidential and through a short online questionnaire that only takes 15 minutes. Respondents to the questionnaire can also leave their contact details to take part in a follow up telephone interview if they choose.

The research team is Dr Deborah Dempsey and Lara Mainka at Swinburne University and Dr Jo
Lindsay at Monash University. The research has been approved by the Swinburne University Human Research Ethics Committee.

For more information about the project, please reply to Lara at lmainka@swin.edu.au

We look forward to hearing from you soon,

Best wishes,

Deb Dempsey and Jo Lindsay,

Co-Investigators.
What's in a Name Australia Project.

what ways do you save on money?

jsemsmum — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 22:04:19 GMT

what are your ways that you save on money? from house hold items to clothes ect

Single mum with 'Narcolepsy' experiencing personal crisis and struggling with active 4 yr old son

MrMoosmama — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 07:27:05 GMT

I'm a single mum to my gorgeous 4 almost 5 yr old son. I'm experiencing problems with being taken off dexamphetamine for my condition, I'm sleeping constantly and feel awful for my son that his mum hasn't any motivation or energy being I just sleep. Also exp a personal crisis only compounding everything else PLEASE HELP!

Mining wives sunshine coast

mptb77 — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 18:18:09 GMT

Hi There,

I am a new mum and a new mining wife on the sunshine coast. My husband works 7days on 7 days off FIFO of mackay. I am looking for some support and advice while my husband away...maybe we could start a group??

Look forward to a reply!!

Thanks Mel

Andre or Andre`

fishe — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 10:38:24 GMT

We are about to have a baby boy and love the name Andre/andre`.

What does the apostrophe actually mean when its added to the e??

whats the importance of this.

To me i always thought it made the e an a sound like cafe`.

So we are unsure how we should spell it on his birth certificate. what are some thoughts......

New mum to the boards

cyberstyle — Thu, 29 Sep 2011 19:14:28 GMT

Hi everyone. Just thought I would drop in and say hello! I am a work/stay at home mum, recently married and look forward to gaining advice and perhaps giving it too lol.

Child Immunisation

oscar546 — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 14:50:34 GMT

As a part of an assignment i am gathering information on child immunisation i would really appreciate some feedback from parents.

Please take your time to answer one or more of these questions.

1. should immunisation be compulsory?

2. why do you think some parents are chosing not to immunise their children?

3. Do you believe in immunisation?

4. If you have children are they immunised? and why did you choose to immunise them?

5. Are you concerned about the risk associated with children that are not immunised within the community?

What im really looking for is the advantages and disadvantages of immunisation so please have a say and tell me what you believe.

Thank you for your time

hi seeking mums who like work at home

glama3 — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 12:45:28 GMT

hi my name is violet mother of 3. I decided to leave my full-time job to stay at home with my kids and work for myself. in my own pace if i could do it i know you could to

Some advice please? young mum with 2year old son and 5,7 and 8year old stepkids aswell

Harmony92 — Sun, 18 Sep 2011 18:11:57 GMT

Hi there all you parents,

Im a nineteen year old mum with a two year old son. Im with my partner whom i love with all my heart and adore so much we have been together for 3 and 1/2 years.I do not smoke drink or do drugs because its not right 4 me and my family,and im really trying to be the best mum i can be.The reason i am writing is to get some advice from other parents about dealing with these times in life.My partner has 1 child who is nine to his first ex and two children to his other ex who are 8(not biologically his just took on the responsability) and 5 (biologically his). He is a great father and a great support with me and i to him i just feel like i need some advice from someone who isnt envoled to give me some advice on how to deal with ex partners and being a good step mum while still being a good mum 4 my bio son, i love all the kids it just gets hard and would love to hear some true honest feelings from parents who have been through situations like this or similar. Thanks heaps guys peace from harmony92

rehab? is it the only solution?

MoshiMoshi — Sat, 27 Aug 2011 12:07:06 GMT

im a single dad..
me and my son always get into a fight due to his misconduct with sever bullying.
i was a victim of bullying when i was a kid and i know how that feels and what it can do to you.
i joined this all-single-dad-group in our local town and told them about my problem.
they suggested camps and schools that will teach discipline and proper conduct. i dont know if its a good idea because im afraid he might hate me for doing this. but its the only thing i could think of that will help both of us.

help...

Research questionnaire

EviesMumma — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 19:24:32 GMT

Research Questionnaire

Thank you for taking part in this survey. This questionnaire will be solely used for my
UC Preparation research assignment. All information will be kept confidential.

No personally identifying questions will be asked of you. Participation in this
questionnaire is voluntary.

This survey is only for mothers.

Q1. What is your age group?

□ 22- 25 □ 26-29 □ 30-33 □ 34-37 □38+

Q2. What is your marital status?

□ Married □ Divorced □ De facto □ Single □ Other __________________________

Q3. How many children do you have?

□1 □2 □3 □4 □5 □ Other ________

Q4. What was your age when you gave birth to your first child? (Tick 1 only)

□10-17 □ 14-17 □ 18-21 □ 22- 25 □ 26-29 □ 30-33 □34-37 □38+

Q5. Would you consider yourself a young mother? (Tick 1 only)

□ No □ Unsure

Q6. What qualities are important in making a good mother? (Tick 3)

□ Patience
□ Discipline
□ Loyalty
□ Wisdom
□ Responsibility □ Maturity
□ Fun loving
□ High energy
□ Other _______________________________________________________

Q7. How often do you leave your child while you go out to socialise?

□ Weekly □ Monthly □ Other_______________________

Q8. Where do you first seek parenting advice? (Tick 1 only)

□ Mother □ Father □ In-laws □ Internet □ Friends
□ Family □ Spouse □ Doctor □ Books □ Internet
□ Other ________________________________________________________

Q9. Highest level of education you've achieved?

□ Yr.10 □ Yr.12 □ Trade □ Diploma □ Degree□Other_____________

Q10. Rate how important you consider your child's education?

(1 not important to 5 very important)

□1 □2 □3 □4 □5

Q11. Are you currently employed?

□ No □ Maternity leave □Other________________________

Q12. How often do you work?

□ Full time □ Part time □ Casual □Other______________________________

Q13. How old was your first child when you returned to work?

_______ months/years

Q14. Main reason why you returned to work?

□ Family finances
□ Work commitments

□ Career goals
□ Time for yourself

□ Employer flexibility
□ Other ___________________

Q15. Where is your child while you attend work?

□ With me
□ Family daycare
□ Long daycare
□ Family
□ Other______________________________________________________________

(a) Rate your experience at the hospital when you gave birth?

(1 terrible to 5 excellent)

□1□2□3□4□5

(b) Why do you think you had that experience ______________________

______________________________________________________________

Q17. (a) Did you experience post-natal depression after the birth of your child?

□ Yes □ No (skip to Q18)

(b) Do you think Post-natal depression had an affect your style of
parenting?

□ Yes□ No□ Unsure

Q18. Did you breast or bottle feed your first child? (Tick 1 only)

□ Bottle
□ Breast
□ Both
□ Expressed
□ Other__________________________________________________________

Q19. If you breastfed, how long did you continue?

__________________months/years

Q20. Why did discontinue breastfeeding your child?

□ Mastitis
□ Medical problems

□ I didn't want to
□ Weaned them self

□Too painful
□Work

□ Other _____________________________________________________________

Q21. Do you smoke cigarettes?

□ No

□ Socially

Q22. Did you smoke during your pregnancy?

□ No

□ I quit when I found out I was pregnant

Q23. Before what age would you consider a woman to be a young mother? (Tick 1
only)

□ 10- 13

□14-17

□18-21

□ 22- 25

□26-29

□30-33

Q24. In your opinion how young is too young to be a good mother? (Tick 1 only)

□ 10- 13

□ 14-17

□ 18-21

□ 22- 25

□ 26-29

□ 30-33

Q25. How would you react when your infant would cry? (Tick 3)

□ Rocking
□ Swaddling
□ Playing
□ Music
□ Feeding
□ Controlled Crying
□ Patting
□ Singing/talking
□ Burping
□ Bathing
□ Dummy
□ Other ___________________________________________________________

Q26. How would you show your infant affection?

___________________________________________________________________

___________________________________________________________________________

Q27. (a) Do you play with your child?

□ Yes

(b) Are you happy with the amount of time you spend interacting with your
child?

□ Yes

□ Sometimes

□ No

□ Unsure

□ No

Q28. (a) Do you read to your child?

□ Yes

(b) On a scale of 1 – 5 rate how important it is to read to your child? (1 not
important to 5 very important)

□1

Q29. Did you buy or make your own baby food?

□ Bought

□ No

□2

□3

□4

□5

□ Both

□Made all food

Q30. Age of your first child when you introduced solids into their diet?

___________ Months/Years

Q31. How important is a healthy diet for your child? (1 not very to 5 very important)

□2

□3

□4

□5

Q32. Does your child self settle when going to sleep?

□ Yes (skip to Q34)

□ No

□Sometimes

Q33. If no how do you settle your child to sleep?

_____________________________________________________________________

Q34. (a) Did/do you bed share?

□ Yes

(b) Age of child when you stopped bed sharing?

□ No (skip to Q35)

____ months/ years

Q35. What level of discipline do you consider suitable?

□ No yelling and no smacking
□ Yelling but no smacking
□ Smacking but no yelling
□ Yelling and smacking are both suitable
□ Other_______________________________________________________________

______________________________________________________________________

Q36. Rate how important discipline is to you? (1 very important 5 not important)

□2

□3

□4

□5

Q37. How would you discipline your child if they...

(a) Threw a tantrum______________________________________________________

______________________________________________________________________

(b) Hit another child _____________________________________________________

______________________________________________________________________

Q38. How would you categories you’re parenting style? (tick 1 only)

□ Authoritarian (highly controlling and values conformity)
□ Authoritative (assertive but not intrusive and restrictive)
□ Permissive (encourage children to think for themselves and not value conformity)
□ Uninvolved (unresponsive and not demanding)
□ Attachment (seek to create a strong emotional bond)

□ Other ______________________________________________________________

______________________________________________________________________________

Thank you for taking the time to fill in this survey!

Good luck mothering

☺

Being forced to choose

LRT — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 20:41:01 GMT

Since my daughter was born, it had just been her and I until she was 5. Her father has always been in the picture, we all have a great relationship.

I married my husband in March, we had been living together for 2 years with my daughter, although some tough times we all worked through them. Helping my daughter to adjust and my husband has been a trial but it had all worked out.

Since my daughter started the second grade she has changed. Her attitude towards us is very disrespectful. Especially to my husband. For a long time i have been backing him up in disagreements to show her that he is also his elder and should be respected. He does make mistakes, in which i will talk to him about at a later time.

Recently it has almost become unbearable, im trying not to back either of them in disagreements because i feel that it may be having an effect on my daughter always siding with my husband. Ive been trying to talk through the situations but either way someone (usually my husband) is not happy with me.

I feel alot of guilt in my relationship with my daughter. I work full time, which means i cant be more envolved with the school, she spends another two hours at after school care and when we get home, im usually straight into the kitchen cooking dinner. I feel that she pushes the limits with me because i cant be there for her like the other mummy's she see's at her school.

Ive tried so many methods of punishment for when she plays up, but she usually talks back to me, or will always have a sly smart-allic comment for anything i say. I really feel im losing in my relationship with her and i feel im losing my relationship with my husband because of it.

Is there anyone who can help me?

Travel insurance...??

mamarube — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 14:26:11 GMT

hello ladies...
i haven't posted for a while as life seems to be incredibly busy with two little boys.
we are about to embark on a holiday to nz and i'm wondering which travel insurance to get.
we have health insurance with http://www.hcf.com.au/benefitsPHI.asp?member_id=Guest and i could organise travel insurance with them as well.
could you please tell me who you use for travel insurance and why?
thanks in advance...
ruby...

Introducing Dylan...

Han — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 19:45:10 GMT

Hi All,

I am glad to introduce Dylan, born 19.01.2011.

Also, not to forget to include Ryan's pic (05.12.07), he will ask where is his photo whenever i am online

c u.......

School Drop off

floral — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 14:15:39 GMT

Does anyone else out there dread the school drop off. My Daughter has now been attending kindy now for 6 months, and i find myself dreading the drop off and pickup times. I know school is all about the child, but when the mothers stand around in clicky little groups, unable even to acknowlage me let alone say hello, i am starting to think this could affect my daughter. She hasn't been invited to any social gatherings or birthday partys. We moved to perth 1 year ago from the country, and i thought school would be an opening for us to make new friends, instead all it has made me feel is lonley and isolated.

Introducing......

LukiesMum+1 — Mon, 30 May 2011 14:47:29 GMT

Our long awaited little angel, Emma Maree born 26/05/11.

A big thanks to those mums who showed their support during the difficult times

Sleeping on left side may halve risk of stillbirth

PregnantPause — Wed, 15 Jun 2011 11:25:07 GMT

Just read this on The Conversation, I posted it in the Baby forum but thought I should put it here too. What do y'all think?

http://theconversation.edu.au/sleeping-on-left-side-may-halve-risk-of-stillbirth-1841

Chatty 9yr old in class

shell28 — Wed, 08 Jun 2011 11:08:39 GMT

Hello

I have a 9 year old daughter who has consistently dropped her grades every term of every year from grade 2. She rushes through her work in class, doesn't listen to instructions, chats to who ever is in ear shot constantly and has only ever put in enough effort to get her pass marks. Unfortunately this will be the first report card where we will start to see the long term effects as she has scored herself a D. My husband and I are strictly academically focussed, however, in saying this we know we need to call in reinforcements.

Georgia doesn't listen to us and we have met with her teacher to get help, seems she doesn't listen to him either. Just wondering if anyone else has or is experiencing this and other than the daily positive reinforcement and tricks from books, have you sought help anywhere else? Are there any groups she can join or behavioural coaching??

She is a really smart girl and very talented at creative arts etc. She wants to be a fashion designer and I really want her to achieve this but we need to do something now to get her on track. Any advice is appreciated.

Cheers

Shell28

Rolling over in the cot - sleeping on the back problem

MartinDonnelly — Sat, 26 Mar 2011 15:56:15 GMT

Hi Everyone

Just wondering if people are having trouble keeping their babies on their backs to sleep?

My son is 5 and a half months old and rolls from his back to his front in his cot at night and then gets frustrated because he hasn't quite figured out how to get from his tummy to his back.

It has only happened once at 4am but happens regularly during his day time naps.

Any suggestions on how I can keep him on his back?

I am a Web Designer in Auburn in case someone needs ;-)

Comparing…Is it good or not.

Han — Tue, 24 May 2011 14:50:12 GMT

Hi all, it’s been quite long since I last post a thread here. Although I did not log in, I was passive, reading the ongoing events as guest.

I have an issue which I require your advice. I am now mum of two, Ryan, 3 years and 5month and little Dylan 4month. I have noticed that since Dylan’s birth, Ryan is a changed boy; he is no longer my cute boy who used to obey.

My husband and I have made countless effort not to let him feel abandoned, coz he now understands everything that goes on. However, he is very aloof with his daddy and is always on my cue. This is a good thing for me, as I always feared that with Dylan’s birth, he might be distant with me, but it’s not the case.

However, my issue is Ryan is not listening to me anymore. I cannot explain his behavior. When I ask him to do something for me or ask him to stop doing something which might cause him harms, he does the complete opposite. Sometimes I think that Dylan’s birth has nothing to do with it, it’s just a phase but could it be Dylan’s birth affecting him?? Lately, tired of his behavior, I started to compare him. When he does something bad, I say, “alright, you are not listening to me, but Dylan is a good boy, he listens to mum”. I have, unintentionally, been comparing hi behavior with Dylan, without realizing his feelings.

Am I doing something wrong here? I am sure I am, coz I cannot stop feeling guilty, but guilt is my second nature. I feel guilty for everything. If I go out with my husband on these very rare occasions, I feel guilty for having left both my sons at home. I did not realize my mistake until hubby pointed out that to me. At the beginning, when I started saying “Dylan listens to me, but Ryan does not”, this worked for me. Ryan would obey me and say “when I was a baby, I was obeying too”, then my heart fell for him, but since then I have been using same as a technique to make Ryan listen to mw. Sometimes, it has failed but many times it worked.

But since hubby pointed that out to me, I feel that I am completely wrong in using this “method”, could you please advise how should I proceed? Am I doing something wrong here???

Your help would be much appreciated, and thanks for reading my post.

How do you balance your work and family? Working parents needed for a UQ survey!

tessa_alexa — Tue, 31 May 2011 19:44:27 GMT

Hi all!

I am currently completing my honours in psychology at University of Queensland. For my thesis, I am looking at how Australian working parents manage their family and work demands and what happens when parents are unable to cope with the conflict betwen work and family.

If you have at least one child between the ages of 2 and 12, and work at least one day per week, go to: http://uqpsych.qualtrics.com/SE/?SID=SV_a32ioLuOTYcWsOo to participate!

The results will be contributing to a wider field of research associated with the Triple P-Positive Parenting Program at the University of Queensland.

Please let me know if you have any questions!

Your help is much appreciated.

Tess

PS Please feel free to forward the link on if you know someone else who could participate - hoping to get a really large sample

Thank you!