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interview for enrolment in the local catholic primary school

mumby2 — Thu, 31 Mar 2011 18:26:05 GMT

Hi there, I am wondering if anyone can help....

We have enrolled our DS in the local catholic primary school and have been called up to go for the interview next week. I am wondering if anyone has had any experience of these interviews as to what sorts of things they might ask? Not ever having done this before I am feeling a bit nervous about it all. I'd like to feel like I'm a little prepared walking in. Does anyone have any tips they could offer as to what sorts of questions they might ask?? Thanks so much for you help.

3 yr old now refuses to use the toilet

Kaz1211 — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 18:15:27 GMT

my 3 yr old daughter was fully toilet trained and for 5 months we only had 1 accident. Lately, she refuses to use the toilet and has gone back to going in her undies. The lies and tells me she doesn't need to go, that 'daddy' didn't tell me to go, that she's clean when she clearly isn't. Nothing has changed with her daily routine so i'm at a loss about what to do. we've tried giving her 5c each time she goes without being told, ringing 'daddy' to tell him the good news, rewards charts and getting her a new piggy bank to put her toilet money in. Still no luck.

Any ideas?

My 4 Yr Old won't eat breakfst

HollieElijah — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 10:38:50 GMT

I need some advice on how to get my 4 year old to eat breakfast. All she wants is a cup of Milk and then she will happily eat FRUIT and only fruit. It’s not giving her enough energy and by midmorning she is very grumpy and teary and refuses to eat. I have even tried Sugar cereals she just won’t eat them. Eggs she will eat the yolk a bit, and toast forget it. Today we made pancakes and then she sat down and said, Yuck i dont want them. But in the next breath she will be saying I am hungry I want to eat.

Any help would be great.

Cheers

Mal

Child Safety Engineering

engineer22 — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 05:09:34 GMT

I am a mechanical engineering student currently tasked with working on a year long design project. I'm very interested in safety design and would greatly appreciate any input parents might have concerning problems you would love to see solved or possibly any improvements you would like to see made to existing child safety technologies. Thanks for your time and I hope I can be of help.

Frank

When to step in when you see a family, that's got a 4 and 5 yr old, that's unhappy?

2bfree — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 00:54:09 GMT

My friend gets mad quick and I don't know what to do? It stresses the kids, boys 4 and 5 out. Her and her husband have had trouble with child services because of complaints and stange cuts and bruises on kids. They are aggressive people, both suited and well matched! One time he argues with her she punches him and he smashes dvd case over back of her head!!! She went to hospital cause she was worried about gash, said it was a work accident!
They smack the kids too, usually when they don't listen- he usually throws somthing, at someone or wall and she'll clip them across back of head.
When i was over last, to babysit the next day, the 4 year was asleep in the car after trip to shops and he had wet himself, after mother yells at him I try to get him in the shower, I'm not very stern so she tries to teach me, I say I shouldn't have to yell. She she no it's tone of voice. Then she says really loud, almost yelling, 'shower now, 1 2 3....' He moves real quick then!
Then I was worried- I had to look after them for a whole day, are they really that bad? No the day I babysat we went to the park and I had no major troubles, no screaming at them and no wanting to smack them.
Is it me from not being a mother and not understanding the stresses?
The kids are in day care during the week, my friend works part-time and her husband is away 3 weeks and is home 2 weeks.

growing pains

dad23 — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 23:24:45 GMT

has anyone else's children suffered from growing pains ?
my partners daughter is suffering from them at the moment , it is usually pain behind her knees or in her calves . it is quite painful and not much we can do for her . just wondering if anyone had experienced this and if they knew of any good ways to help the child . it usually occurs at night or late in the day . cheers for your help [Smile]

Daughter always asks for Mum and wont let Dad help her

Shane — Thu, 17 Mar 2011 13:46:12 GMT

Im having trouble with my daughter. She is always asking for her Mother and she will only on occasions let me do simple things like dress her, feed her, put her to sleep. It is always a struggle to get her up in the morning,however, when my wife does it she is mainly fine. When my wife and I are together with our daughter she plays us off with each other. However, when I am by myself my daughter is better, she does however, still ask for mum.

What to do.

Male Role Models?

luv2bmum — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 14:46:26 GMT

My 3 and 1/2 year old son doesn't know his dad and is startig to ask questions. It could be completely unrelated, but he is startin to act out a bit too. He has asked my brother, my ex and a friend if they are his dad.

I think he needs a male role model in his life as so far he has only really had me, and lately his nanny as well.

Does anyone know if we have some sort of big brother thing over here like they do in America?

Or any ther suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Why I wet the bed

jimrich — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 18:47:24 GMT

Just want to share my own experience with chronic bed wetting. I wet for many years starting at about 4-5 up to 10-11 when I developed nocturnal erections.
To make a very long and complicated story short, my wetting was the direct result of extreme emotional stress due to a lot of fear, anger, violence and general unhappiness in our family. My parents were not happily married and this was the major stressor for me plus a lot of other UGLY stuff in our home: the boogie man, physical violence, teasing, horror movies, and a huge pile of terrible stuff that produced a lot of tension and fear in me so I'd fall asleep, have horrifying nightmares or vivid dreams of "going'" & wet the bed! Sometimes right after visiting the pot! My parent tried everything from sever punishment to bribery to waking me up at night to no water after 6 to humiliation to threats to utterly giving up to ...... well you name it! Doctors gave them a lot of stories and solutions but never DARED tell them their bad marriage and the horrible stress in our home was the REAL problem. The doctor didn't want to lose their business! But my parents would have laughed in his face over such nonsense! They were not the problem! My kidneys, bladder, BAD ATTITUDE, laziness, stupidity, genetics, COWARDICE, etc was the problem! Now that I am old enough to remember and understand, I can see that, if only my parents had attempted to eliminate some of the stressors in our home, I might have wet less or not at all. I was like a PTSD victim. I was very nervous and fidgety, had severe sinus problems and allergies. I can now see how much of this was directly connected to the terrible emotional state of our home life.
The literature on wetting just does not address the issue of emotional stress from the parents or within the home but, in my case at least, that was the main, though IGNORED, issue!

3.5 year old - obsessions with food

christylouisevalerie — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 14:43:29 GMT

My 3.5 year old son is very obsessive about his food at the moment. He loves cheese slices but if it gets broken or torn in the process of opening the plastic wrap, he REFUSES to eat it. We also had a fifteen minute tantrum the other day because his toast was cut into triangles and he was trying to tell me that they were rockets and not triangles. I was just wondering if anyone else's three year olds have shown signs of this as it seems a bit obsessive for a three year old...Please tell me it's normal!!! Please share any stories of your children's food obsessions!

Anyone else have multiple special needs kids in your family?

Yummymummy2089 — Fri, 14 Oct 2011 12:39:31 GMT

I feel like I am trying all the 'right things' and our family is still upside down. I put out spot fires all day long but never take any ground. I am tearing my hair out. Do you know how I feel???? it is so stressful and so isolating.

3.5yr old waking in the night and staying awake for hours often yelling out.

ZumMum — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 14:23:52 GMT

Help!!

My son has never been a good sleeper. He has slept through the night on the odd occasion, but since the arrival of a little sister 6 months ago he has been a shocking sleeper.

At the moment he goes to sleep really well at 7 with a night light on, as he is scared of he dark. He wakes some time between 11 and 1 yelling out for me. I go in and ask what is wrong, it's often nothing. I reassure him or fulfill his request for drink, cuddles, nappy change etc. then ask him to roll over and go back to sleep. After this he often stays awake and either calls out intermittently for various things or comes out to my bed. I put him back in his bed after a short period in my bed because he has never been able to sleep in a shared bed. This can go on for up to three hours.

He still needs a day sleep and generally sleeps from 1230 for up to 3 hours. He goes to care 1 day a week and on this day has less sleep and the nights are always worse.

We've tried a reward chart with no success. We've tried soft soothing music without any success. We can't ignore it because of his sister sleeping in the next room. How can I convince him to go back to sleep without tantrumming? Better still how can I convince him to self settle in he night?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Terrible, terrible 3's!!

LukiesMum+1 — Wed, 10 Aug 2011 11:41:22 GMT

My son is 3.5 and I have a 10wk old baby girl. I think my son is having a late reaction to his sister being part of our lives. He will not do anything on his own, try new things and just about has a panic attack if I leave the room (even after telling him where I'm going!).

He doesn't listen, doesn't do as he's told, back answers, is rude, whinges and whines and I'm at the end of my tether. The baby pretty much gets fed and dumped on the floor to play. I give him heaps of one on one attention and I take him out most days. I've banned T.V, ice cream and computer games, I've smacked, I've done time out but NOTHING is working.

I really, really don't know what to do with him anymore. I hope someone can help.

Single Parenting

kidsneeds — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 20:08:04 GMT

Are you a Single Parent in the City of Melbourne, do you need support, social activities, advice, legal guidance or simply someone to talk to and share your story with. Lets get together on this forum and connect and share our stories, ask one another for help and share important infomraiton for Single Parents

Kindergarten/Pre school in Melbourne???

Kadensmum — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 08:37:30 GMT

I'm moving from NZ to Melbourne in December and I'm trying to figure out the schooling system.

What is the difference between pre school and Kindergarten? My 4 year old son turns 5 in May therefore is not eligable for school till 2013. Alot of the kindergarten websites Ive been on only have classes for 3 and 4 year olds....so what happens when they turn 5..is this when they go to pre school until they are old enough for school?

What time do u put your child on the school waiting list?

Lovebug — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 17:39:50 GMT

hi
I am a single mum of two (Annabel - Jane 3.5 years and Isabel - Emily 6 months). I was just asking what age you put your child on the school waiting list. The father and I know what school she will go to. Do u put the name down at 3 or 4 or 5.

Thanks Lillie

refusal to eat

dlchamb — Sat, 09 Jul 2011 10:13:10 GMT

I'm having trouble getting my 4 year old to eat. She tells us that she is hungry but when we make dinner she tells us that she doesn't like it. Usually these are meals that she eats often or that we know she likes. I've tried several approaches, including rewards like dessert, and punishments like early bed time. This has been an ongoing problem for a long time. I just don't know what do as nothing seems to help. I am a young inexperience father and I just don't want to handle it the wrong way. Anyone who may have some input or suggestions would be a huge help!!! Thank you in advance.

s.o.s (save our sanity!)

shellbelle85 — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 19:05:47 GMT

hey y'all me again..

i know this is going to sound like no - brainer question.. but as is my style i am going to ask anyway in the hope that someone will take pity on my ignorance and please help me... how on earth do you get a 2 yo to blow their nose? can it be done? my little one has just recovered from a cold, only to come down with a flu a few days later. grrr! she's the most dosed up kid in the world but i must wipe her nose a million times a day, at least. this arvy i took her for a walk to get some honey and lemon for her throat. armed with tissues, i kept stopping to wipe her nose, but lo and behold, i still got a couple of withering looks from people who clearly thought i never wipe my kids nose.so basically i wanted to know, can you teach kids that age to blow their nose and how do you do it? my daughter just sniffs,i cant seem to find a way to help her blow. dramatic, i know, but after nearly two weeks of it, its doing my head in. please help.

"selective" separation anxiety, defiant behaviour

sara45 — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 13:25:03 GMT

My 5 yr old (5 in july this yr) is just making me worry to no end! once i had a lovely little girl, and it seems that everything has just turned upside down this yr. i (mum) am pregnant with baby number 3 and my 5 yr old will be the middle child.

my daughter is so defiant, everything i tell her to do ends up having to be her decision. i guess i would see this as normal, if it happened a little. but its all the time. last night she wouldn't eat dinner because she was asked to sit at the table!

my biggest issue is when she is upset. if she becomes upset for whatever reason, she runs away crying. when i try to talk to her, she just cries (normally by now in that fake cry) louder. i could see she was upset today, and no matter how i tried to talk to her she just wouldn't answer. i have no idea how to help her when she won't talk to me!

then theres kindergarten. its the one place where we have issues separating. I have tried a whole bunch of things to get her excited about kindergarten. I'm trying to not make it a big deal at the moment. when i leave I'm often very upset. she doesn't have any friends (although she used to and i don't know what happened). she can separate from me easily in other situations, like at a sleepover.

can i blame everything on the fact that i am almost 8 months pregnant and this is about the same time everything occurred? I thought we were doing the right thing in waiting till she was a little older before having the next baby! or is this something more serious. i can't even trust my instincts. its all clouded with my professional knowledge as a nurse.

i just wish i had any clue of what to do. I'm just lost

3 Year Old Austic Son Becoming extreemly Violent HELP

angelgoddess — Thu, 29 Sep 2011 22:22:25 GMT

As of recently my son is reacting with violent behaviour towards me,his sister and my mother.

Now I can define the difference between his meltdowns and his reaction to naughty behaviour.

Generally when he has a meltdown he screams,crys,throws his body around,hits his head and all the above.This may happen when hes feeling anxious or in a place where he feels uneasy.He also throws around objects etc and breaks things.

His violent behaviour this time around usually starts when I stop him from doing something he enjoys.Like taking his book away when its time for tea or stopping him from running around in the doctors surgery.When I try to stop him it starts with yelling and crying and eventuates into biting,pulling my hair slapping etc.It is getting worse.Recently I stopped him from running around in a surgery and he threw himself onto the floor and screamed kicked etc.Then he bit the receptionists ankle when she said calm down.Then I tried to firmly restrain and rock him and sing so he headbutted me in the nose.Nothing calm him and takes about 45min to calm.I cant distract nor calm him.

Another senario,today he wanted to chew on his sisters school bag (sensory mouther) but we had to go and take her to school.So he threw the chairs down one by one, tried to bite us all and as I strapped him in the car,he full forse kicked me with both feet in the face.I have been so patient and trying to ignore him and walking away,redirecting attention (fail) but when he hurts me it really hurts emotionally and physically.I will admit I have slapped the inside of his hand but honestly...that results to more violence on his side.

My son is a very sweet loving and cuddly boy generally.Please note he can talk properly yet and must be very frustrated as communication is limited. Meltdowns are one thing ...I was thinking maby these are meltdowns but its like a cheecky little boy sometimes....he looks at me as he climbed the tv with a massive grin and cheecky laugh as I say get down, so he is aware that what he is doing is annoying mummy but continues and thinks its funny and ends up becoming violent if I try and stop him. He has always been very difficult,hes very flighty,pacey,in a world of his own running back and forth,not very relaxed for long at all.Yes he is autistic but im questioning ADD alot off professionals and friends feel for the massive job I have with him not just being Autistic but really hard to handle.Any advice at all anyone??

Recent single mother of 2 Boy (autistic) daughter (aspie)

NOTE: recent seperation from DV father and living at my mothers and newish to his childcare.

Change in use of manners

adventurer — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 23:47:04 GMT

Hi, I am mum to Miss D. Miss D had great manners up until 3 months ago. She would always say please, thank you and sorry. Then the use of these words just stopped. She would rather go without something than say please. And instead of saying thank you she would say something like "it was nice of you to look after me". Although this phrase is a way of saying thank you, I find it very frustrating that she will not say the words please or thank you.

Even more so though she refuses to say sorry. She will "rub" or kiss someone better if she accidently hurt them but refuses to say sorry.

According to Miss D, her manners have gone on holiday. Regrettably I should never have let this slip the first time and am paying for it 3 months later. I have tried a rewards chart for good manners and shown her what she will get when her manners return all to no avail.

Or am I being too hard or have too higher expectations of a just over 3 year old??

Thoughts?

3 and 1/2 talking issues, would love some advice

bejarnie — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 17:09:49 GMT

Hi,

I am a single mum, and i know there is a lot of information on line about young boys who aren't talking at 3 and people saying read more do flash cards, well i have been doing all the normal activities with my boy i think anyone else would be doing, he goes to kindy and really enjoys it, however i am concerned, i have him booked on the waiting list for a speech therapist, and also hearing test, but with out being able to communicate the hearing test is very hard to get a clear understanding on weather it is an issue, i don't really have anyone to talk it over with so i was wondering are there any people out there who have gone through all of this and found it was not autism?

My boy is 3 1/2, he loves books, reading and playing with puzzles, he is very physically active and loves to sing, he has flash cards of all descriptions and enjoys playing with them, and saying what they are, but the words aren't clear and he struggles with communication everyday. he only started calling me mummy about 3 months ago, followed quickly with asking for daddy whom unfortunately doesn't want to see his son.

Just very lost at the moment.

looking forward to hearing from anyone really.

Total Development Program

ummabdurahaman — Sat, 16 Jul 2011 01:50:17 GMT

Does anybody know more about Total Development Program?
http://www.etllearning.com/products/total_development_program
Is there anybody who has these books?
Is it worth as they claim? what r the pros and cons?
can somebody advise which is the best : A Child's First Library of Learning
English-Time
Early Learning Program
Learning Math with Albert
A Child's First Library of Values.. i'm considering to buy all of it or part of it.. so pls help...

How do you balance your work and family? Working parents needed for a UQ survey!

tessa_alexa — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 12:24:32 GMT

Hi there!

Working parents needed for an online survey about work life balance! I am currently undergoing a ressearch project for my 4th year university studies. I am investigating whether working parents experience difficulty managing work and family demands and if so, what consequences this can have.

The survey will ask you about how you manage your family and work responsibilities and should only take approximately 15 minutes. Participants need to work more than one day a week and have at least one child between the ages of 2 and 12 years of age.

The results of this study will contribute to a significant field of research associated with the Triple P-Positive Parenting Program at University of Queensland!

Please follow the link: http://uqpsych.qualtrics.com/SE/?SID=SV_a32ioLuOTYcWsOo

Any questions, please let me know!

Feel free to pass the link on to anyone else you know who would be keen to complete it. I have over 200 responses so far but would love at least 300 to get a good sample

Thank you!

Tessa

Wipe myyyyy bum

Yummy Mummy — Sun, 08 May 2011 18:50:35 GMT

Hello, I'm just wondering at what age kids starting wiping their own bum? My 3 year old is toilet trained, has been for some time, but I still wipe his bum when he poops.

So just curious as to what age they start wiping their own bum....

Road activities for preschoolers?

Amanda1970 — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 03:54:26 GMT

Hi There,

Can anyone help me with Road activities for preschoolers?
I spend a lot of time with my preschooler driving around.
Do you have activities to turn this time to more useful?

Thanks,
Amanda.

Young father needing discipline advice 3 year old son

Bigdaddy — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 19:43:01 GMT

I'm a 23 year old father/full time uni student with depression and a 3 year old son who I have had full custardy of since march.
Since getting a new kitten, he torments it daily when I'm not looking. This includes trapping it in a corner/behind doors, crashing toys into it, throwing a football at it, yells inhis face and chases it around.
I've tried explaining to him that the cat is fragile and not a toy. I told him he needs to be gentle. This failed. I tried not giving dessert or reading books at night, it failed. I tried putting him in time out, bed early, it fails.
I've totally run out of ideas. Also, his attitude lately has changed dramatically. He used to be very good and do as he is told. Now he argues about absolutely everything! I'm stuck and funding it hard to cope.
Lastly, to get at me, he tells ne he wants to go live at his mums house. The mum who moved far north for a guy and work and left her son behind

3 yr old not talking to anyone else

Kaz1211 — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 11:10:09 GMT

My 3 yr old daughter is a major chatterbox at home and to family but when she goes to daycare, swimming lessons or out and about, she refuses to talk to anyone. She just sits in silence and looks like she is sulking. Her poor swimming teacher got the 'death stares' for the whole lesson again this week (poor teacher).

Her daycare teacher is starting to worry about her and her social ability.

To me she is just a shy little 3 yr old but should i be worried?

Is a treat in her lunchbox such a bad thing??

tsmammy — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 08:07:37 GMT

Yesterday I sent my DD to preschool with a snack sized chocolate in her lunchbox(along with an apple, carrot sticks, a yoghurt and a cheese and tomato sandwich). She came home in floods of tears because her teacher wouldn't let her eat it!! It had no nuts in it, just a standard bite sized chocolate!
I'm so annoyed because ive seen plenty of BAD processed foods in other kids lunch boxes that they are allowed to eat, yet she isn't allowed to eat a poxy little treat!!! Her lunchbox never has anything bad in it, it's always healthy, but at school holidays time, I like to pack a little treat for her to compensate for her going to preschool and my ds staying home with me. I wouldn't have thought it was such a big deal?? Apparently it is!
I've had a letter home for sending her in with a fruit stick before, so I've never sent it again, but surely they don't have this right. They have a sign saying what their prohibited. Food items are, anything with nuts, or seafood. Nothing about treats. I could understand a lunchbox consistently being full of junk food, but that's not the case here.
What do you guys think? Im sending it with her again today, but I'll be telling them that whatever I pack for her, she is allowed to eat. I abide by all the rules for prohibited food, that I have never been notified that treats are banned!
Sorry, I know it's a rant and there are much more important things to worry about in this world, but I think they are being ridiculous!!
Id be very grateful for your opinions!

3 year old to sit at meal times

michelle69 — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 13:19:33 GMT

Trying to get my 3 year old to sit down at the table with me or as a family for breakfast, lunch or dinner is getting to be a battle of wills.

Any tips on how I can get her to sit still and concentrate on her meal?

She fidgets, jumps up and down tries to play with toys - basically anything is more interesting than her food. I try and get rid of all distractions but its not easy.

Keeping a 3 year old warm through the night

Yummy Mummy — Mon, 13 Jun 2011 14:08:21 GMT

Hello, my son is notorious for kicking off his blankets at night. Finally my children sleep through the night, yet I find I am still getting up two or more times during the night to cover my son.

I have researched sleeping bags, but they seem to only go up to 36 months. Given my son's size, I assume he will not fit in one of those.

Just wondering what other people do? I layer him with warm clothing, but I too am layered with clothes and still feel the cold so I imagine he is still cold too.

Looking for lunchbox inspiration

Yummy Mummy — Thu, 12 May 2011 09:53:20 GMT

Hello, I feel like I'm always putting the same ol' boring thing in my son's lunchbox so am interested to hear what you put in your kids' lunchboxes.

Advice on how best to support my friend - who has a 3yr old being tested

Lmf73 — Thu, 12 May 2011 00:43:51 GMT

Hi all,

One of my closest friends has just been told that her child possibly has Asperger's. She has had a very supportive interview with the headmaster of his new kindy and has appointments for testing in 6 weeks. So far I've listened, hugged and babysat for her youngest daughter whilst she goes to appts. I have two boys (5 & 6) and really just wanted to ask if there was anything else I could do for her and the kids? Any advice would be appreciated.

Thx,

Lmf73

How would you deal with this from a 3 year old

lovetoshowerwithclotheson — Sun, 29 May 2011 10:47:38 GMT

Hello everyone, I don't have any children but hope to someday. My question is about an experience I had with my girlfriend one day at her house.

We were at a family gathering and I was sitting next to my girlfriend with her 3 year old nephew on my lap. Another nephew ( a ten year old from a different sister) walked by and tossed me a bag of candy. I caught the bag but right after, the 3 year old jumped to his feet and tried to fight the ten year old because he had apparantly thrown something at me.

My girlfriend got up and said " Look its okay, He is not hurt" as she pointed at me. Both my girlfriend and the three year old's mother seemed proud that the boy was "defending" me. The boys mother made a comment that he defends those he likes.

I was not sure what to make of this. I don't have much experience with children but the first thing I thought of when the boy got up to fight, was that someone should tell him that fighting isn't good or try and tell him that he needs to see what happened first before he acts. I don't know, but then I though maybe he's to young and would not understand this yet.
I certainly would not be proud of him for fighting though, that seemed a little odd.

One more quick question......... I was at another family gathering one day and this same 3 year old started hitting another 5 year old nephew. My girlfriend took him aside and said to him "We don't hit our cousins", "He's family" ...

wouldn't the proper thing to say be "You don't hit anyone", It just seemed a little odd to me.

Any comments would be appreciated, thanks.

Bed Wetting Mats/Pads

tsmith44 — Fri, 29 Apr 2011 21:40:33 GMT

Hi all,

Im looking at getting some bed pads or mats the ones that go over the the bottom sheet, and would like some advice on brands and if they work etc.

Thanks

Tegan

Toilet Refusal

tash29aus — Mon, 09 May 2011 16:41:31 GMT

My three year old started toilet training last year, i remember that she started showing more and more signs in about october and so I started her then. She can hold her bladder, likes wearing undies, she can get on the toilet herself, she can pull down her pants, do wee in the toilet and everything but last few months she is just refusing.

At first she progressed but then she would have lots of accidents so more toilet timing her putting her on the toilet every couple of hours which worked fine, we tried sticker charts and bribes when the novelty of going to the toilet wore off.

I am just frustrated with wiping up urine and poo all over the place. Every couple of hours I ask her lets go the toilet, she says no. She wont tell me when she needs to go, or is it she doesn't know.

I want to use pull ups to avoid the mess but i know she will be lazy and just wee in them, the training pants still makes a mess as she hold s it for so long.

I have been told just ask her don't make her but then she just doesn't go, I don't put her in pull ups because people will say she will hate it when she wets herself but today she just wet herself while laying on the ground playing and didn't even move. She will poo on the ground and doesn't care or even in the pool last week. According to her she just doesn't want to go.

I must admit my husband and I are starting to get angry at her as she doesn't even try to go the toilet anymore and kicks and screams if we try and take her.

I tried for a long time to not get upset when she had a accident but its hard not to angry now. I know its not helping.

She is so old now and so far along I would hate to back to nappies but she just doesn't know how to verbilise that she needs to go and doesn't care if she does or not. she hardly ever says mummy I need to go the toilet.

I am at my wits end, I don't know what to do.

Choosing a preschool

peanut01 — Mon, 16 May 2011 15:41:32 GMT

Hi, my son is 3 1/2 and we have been looking for a preschool for the past couple of months. I am new to this along with new to this site as many of you also would be and looking for some advice.

If anyone can recommend somewhere in the city surrounds, preferably east or just south that would be very helpful. We are hoping to find out for those who already have kids in a preschool that they are happy with, what we need to look for and the good and bad points.

Our main concern at the moment is we are planning on moving within the next 6mths, pending a sale of a house so at this stage we have no idea where we will be living apart from the idea of where we are planning to move to.

We look forward to your replies!

When did your child stop using a stroller?

priceobrien — Tue, 03 May 2011 12:42:22 GMT

I'm just curious at what age a child stops needing a stroller, or at what age a stroller stops being a necessity?

Age Appropriate Behaviours

Alydia — Sun, 01 May 2011 10:56:59 GMT

I would imgaine that most theme parks have very similar rides, however, the Theme park I am relating to is 'Luna Park Melbourne'.

Lunapark.com.au

My son (who is only 3 & 3/4 yrs old, 108 cm tall, 110 cm with shoes) & his father (during Fortnightly visitation) attended Luna Park for a 5 Yr old's birthday party, which is great, lots of fun etc.

However....My dilema is that his Father took him on the following rides: the 'spider', the 'coney island drop' & the 'pirate ship'. (If you are unsure of what these rides are, please check out the website lunapark.com.au)

My personal views on this is that this is extremely NEGLIGENT & DANGEROUS!!!

Why... (to list just a few)

1. 0-3 yrs old wearing a wrist tag stating that 'liability is the responsibilty of the wearer'???

2. Children of this age do not have the strentgh, motor skills, cognitive skills etc, to have the ability to keep themselves safe if something was to happen.

3. If this is what a 3yr old is doing at this age, what type of activities are they going to be doing for 'fun' at eg. 10 or 15yrs old if they have done all these things at this age???

Am I being unreasonable in thinking & stating that this behaviour / activity is completely inappropriate, dangerous, negligent & should not have occured??

Age appropriate activities for 3yr old children

Alydia — Sun, 01 May 2011 10:46:48 GMT