Some nights you need to get up and soothe a crying baby three, four or what seems like ten times a night. You're not used to waking up this often and you're tired. It's one of the most challenging parts of having a new baby. It can affect almost all aspects of your life: your health, mood, relationships, career and sometimes even your sanity.
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For FathersFor many parents and caregivers, especially those who must go to work in the morning, one thought can drown out all others: will this baby ever sleep through the night?
The answer is yes – in a way. The truth is, few babies truly 'sleep through the night'. Instead, sleep researchers have found that infants younger than 12 months old typically wake up an average of three times during the night.
For the first few months of life, 95% of infants cry when they wake up. And most of them need someone to soothe them before they can get back to sleep. But as your baby gets older, she may simply go back to sleep on her own. Several studies have found that by eight months, over 50% of infants who wake at night go back to sleep without any soothing from parents or other caregivers. In fact, sometimes their parents didn't even realise they'd been awake.
For a subject that's so important – paediatricians report that questions about sleep are among the most frequently asked by caregivers – researchers know relatively little about a baby's nightlife. But by using video cameras and activity monitors to keep track of babies' sleeping and waking cycles, researchers are beginning to understand how infants form sleep patterns.
All babies are unique, and sleep patterns vary greatly from infant to infant. Even though typical sleep patterns don't apply to all babies, researchers have identified general patterns that you can look for as your child gets older.
It may seem hard to believe when you aren't getting enough sleep, but most infants younger than three months old sleep around 18 hours a day. It's also normal for some to sleep more, and for some to sleep less. Young infants tend to sleep for around 2-4 hours at a time, and then wake for short periods, often to be fed. These patterns of sleeping and waking can vary, and they go on around the clock.
In the first weeks and months, it's too early to expect a young baby to sleep through the night. As tiring as it seems, don't expect infants to pay attention to adult schedules right away. A newborn doesn't know that people sleep when it's dark, and a baby's 'circadian rhythm' – the 24-hour internal clock that controls our sleeping and waking patterns – is still developing.
But hang in there! In a few months, babies gradually begin to organise sleeping and waking according to daily cycles of darkness and light. The 24-hour, light-and-dark cycle begins to affect most babies' sleep patterns within the first three months.
By six months of age, many babies organise their main sleep times in concert with darkness and light. Although babies can vary a great deal, six-month-olds may sleep six hours or more at a time, and most of these longer periods take place at night. Also, by six months, your baby will probably wake up fewer times at night.
Not only will your six-month-old begin to sleep for longer periods of time, she'll become better able to soothe herself when she awakes. Researchers using video recording systems in babies' homes observed that babies vary a lot when it comes to waking and crying – or not crying – at night. They found the biggest changes in infants' sleeping and waking patterns between three months and six months. Six-month-olds not only sleep longer at a stretch than three-month-olds, they are more likely to go back to sleep on their own when they wake.
As they get closer to their first birthdays, infants tend to sleep longer, wake up less often, and sleep more and more at night. By the time your baby turns one, chances are she'll be sleeping 8-12 hours a night, waking up only once or twice during that time. And she may take a nap once or twice during the day, ranging from 20 minutes to around two hours at a time.
When you hear that cry in the night, remember:
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