Teenagers sometimes change their behaviour or appearance to be part of a social group or ‘subculture’. Try not to worry – it’s normal for teenagers to identify with different youth subcultures as they develop their own identities.
Youth subcultures: what you need to know
Belonging to a social group or youth subculture is often about exploring who you are and what you stand for.
During adolescence, teenagers need to form an independent adult identity. Experimenting with different social groups is one way of doing this. It’s how your child can test out being someone new – someone separate from your family.
Belonging to youth subcultures or social groups can also be a way for teenagers to decide what they identify with in the adult world. It gives your child a way of exploring his own values and deciding whether he agrees with your values.
Social groups can offer a set of guidelines about how to behave, dress and think. Your child might like this if she feels confused by having lots of options and choices. Dressing, behaving and thinking like the rest of a subculture gives your child a sense of belonging and identity too.
Belonging to a subculture can boost your child’s social skills and teach him the rewards of commitment. And it can also just be fun.
Not all young people choose to belong to subcultures. For those who do, membership might be long term, short term, or on and off.
All of this can be challenging for parents, but it’s a normal part of growing up.
Try thinking back to your own adolescence. You might have belonged to a subculture yourself, such as punk, arty type or geek. Some 21st-century subcultures include gothic, cyberculture, emo, gamer, hip-hop and hipster.
Staying positive about subcultures
All young people need to feel validated and valued.
You might not understand why your child likes a particular subculture, but it’s important not to put her down for it. In fact, criticising your child’s subculture might actually make her feel more strongly connected to it.
If you’re finding this phase difficult, here are some tips for staying positive:
- Treat conversations about your child’s subculture as a chance to learn about something new and also about your child’s developing identity. Show an interest in what your child is doing.
- Keep your conversations with your child respectful. When people are critical, rude or cross, discussions might be less effective. Also, your child just might not see things the same way as you do.
- Keep the lines of communication open – this is a vital part of having a healthy relationship with your child. One way to do this is to take opportunities to actively listen to your child.
When to be concerned about youth subcultures
You might worry that your child’s social group is having a negative influence on him – for example, if you notice that he seems more moody or is getting into trouble at school or other places.
It’s normal for teenagers to sometimes have low moods or trouble sleeping, but if problems continue for a few weeks, talk with your child. Warning signs of more serious problems such as depression or anxiety might include:
- low moods, tearfulness or feelings of hopelessness
- aggression or antisocial behaviour
- sudden changes in behaviour, often for no obvious reason
- trouble eating or sleeping
- changes in academic performance.
If you notice these signs, the next step is talking to your GP. The GP can put you in contact with your local child and adolescent mental health team or another appropriate professional.
Understanding more about youth subcultures
It’s easy and normal to worry that your child is spending time with people who might put her at risk, or encourage her to engage in risk-taking behaviour. Negative stories in the media might add to your concerns.
You might also worry if you see your child developing enthusiastic connections to a group or philosophy that you don’t know anything about. Some subcultures might seem strange or even threatening to you.
The more you talk to your child about his subculture, the more you’ll know about whether you really need to worry.
Video Scenes, trends and fashion
In this short video, parents and teenagers discuss separately how trends and fashions can influence teenagers to look and act in certain ways.
Teenagers share the trends that are most important to them, including fashion and technology trends for iPods and mobile phones. Many of the teenagers say that they don’t always care too much about having the latest stuff. Parents share mixed feelings about giving their children this stuff.