Children sometimes have to move school, either by choice or because of family circumstances. Although moving schools can be challenging, you can help make it easier for your child.
Moving schools: preparing your child
If your child is moving schools, the best thing you can do is prepare your child for the change.
You can do this by involving your child as much as you can in the process of choosing and moving schools. This will help your child see the exciting and positive aspects of the move. She’ll be a lot happier if she knows that her needs are important.
Here are tips for involving your child and making the change easier:
- If possible, discuss the move with your child well in advance.
- Be enthusiastic about the move yourself.
- Ask your child to write a list of things he’d like to have in his new school and in his new home or neighbourhood.
- Ask your child to make a list of the things she’s looking forward to about going to a new school.
- Ask your child to make a list of the things he’s worried about. Take time to discuss each issue on the list.
- Find out about schools in the area you’re moving to. Make a list of
the schools and show it to your child. If your child is old enough, talk
about the pros and cons of different schools with your child. If
possible, visit the new location and schools with your child.
If you talk with your child about moving schools, and let your child express his concerns or negative feelings, it’ll help you see the situation through your child’s eyes. Letting your child see how you you’re managing your own feelings about the move will be reassuring and will help your child get used to the change.
Before moving schools: some practical tips
You might like to write a checklist of all the things you need to do as part of moving schools. Then you can tick them off as you get them done. Here are some suggestions.
Your child’s old school and community
Talk to the principal and teacher of the school your child is leaving.
- Request or take a collection of your child’s work to bring to the new school.
- Make a scrapbook of people, activities and memories from your child’s old school.
- Make a contact list of friends from your child’s old school and neighbourhood.
- Plan a farewell party.
- Donate your child’s old uniform to the school’s uniform pool.
Your child’s new school and community
- Talk to the principal of the new school.
- Ask about strategies the new school has for helping new children adjust to the school – a buddy system, for example.
- Buy the new uniform and books if you need to.
- Walk around the grounds and buildings of the new school with your child. This will help your child get to know where the important things are.
- Talk to your new neighbours. Perhaps your child can meet some classmates for a playdate before the first day at school.
- If your child has special needs, talk to the new school about its facilities. If you’re moving interstate, your child’s abilities and eligibility for assistance might need to be reassessed.
After moving schools: helping your child settle in
Once you’ve relocated, try to make some time to help your child settle in. Here are some ideas:
Meet with your child’s new principal and teacher.
- Set up a review meeting, even within the first week or two, to see how things are going.
- Get a copy of the weekly timetable so the whole family knows what’s happening.
- Make sure your child knows about getting to and from school. For example, where you’ll pick her up and drop her off, or where the buses stop.
- Check out the school canteen and other school facilities.
- Find out if there are other extracurricular activities offered at the school that your child might enjoy.
Moving schools: understanding the challenges
Moving can be a very positive experience for your child and family. But changing schools – whether it’s between suburbs, cities, states or even countries – presents several challenges.
These challenges include the following:
- A child could end up repeating topics he learned at his previous school.
- A language other than English might be used at the new school.
- A child’s individual needs might not be identified quickly.
- Friendships left behind might not be replaced so easily.
Children are very adaptable. Most of them will manage moving to a new school quite happily. But you do need to be aware of how your child is feeling about the move.
Reasons for moving schools
Children move schools for many reasons, most often with their families.
Your family might be moving to follow a parent’s new or seasonal employment, for a ‘sea change’ or because of a change of housing. You might be part of a culture or business that needs to be mobile, or part of a community where you need to travel for family reasons or cultural events and ceremonies. Or your family might be part of the defence forces.
Moving schools happens for other reasons too, including when parents separate or divorce, children go to live with another family member or go into care. Sometimes children will move to go to boarding school or go to a school that better suits their needs and talents.