Shopping, cooking, paying bills, keeping track of where everybody is and where they need to be. Ferrying children to, from and between home, school and friends. It's all part of the hectic behind-the-scenes activity that keeps a family and a home going.
If you are going through separation or divorce, your children will adapt more easily if you and your ex can keep the same routines in your separate homes.
The way you work as a family and keep things going at home is called family management. With a few basics in place, family management can create more time for you as a family.
Family management can:
Family management is about routines, rituals, and budget and money management.
Routines include things that need to be done at certain times (such as mealtimes and bedtimes). They provide security and stability for both adults and children, and can help your family organise things in a way that means you can all spend more time together and more time doing the things that are important to you.
Rituals help your family know what’s special about your family. They can be simple things, like reading a bedtime story, or having chocolate cake on Sunday night. Rituals make family members feel important, and give everyone a sense of history and of belonging.
Taking control of your family's finances contributes to a smooth-running, happy environment at home. It also teaches children skills for when they are adults. Read our tips on managing your money and on finances and debt.
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