Using language and communicating with other people can be a challenge for many children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD). But with help and understanding, your child can develop communication skills.

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Join the forumChildren with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) can find it hard to relate to and communicate with other people. They might be slower to develop language, have no language at all, or have significant difficulties in understanding or using spoken language.
Children with ASD often don’t understand that communication is a two-way process that uses eye contact, facial expressions and gestures as well as words. It’s a good idea to keep this in mind when helping them develop language skills.
Some children with ASD develop good speech but can still have trouble knowing how to use language to communicate with other people. They might also communicate mostly to ask for something or protest about an issue, rather than for social reasons, such as getting to know someone.
How well a child with ASD communicates is important for other areas of development, such as behaviour and learning.
Sometimes children with ASD don’t seem to know how to use language, or how to use language in the same ways as typically developing children.
Unconventional use of language
Many children with ASD use words and verbal strategies to communicate and interact, but they might use language in unusual ways. For example, they might:
This is often an attempt to get some communication happening, but it doesn’t always work because the listener can’t understand what the child is trying to say.
For example, children with echolalia might learn to talk by repeating phrases they associate with situations or emotional states, learning the meanings of these phrases by finding out how they work. A child might say ‘Do you want a lolly?’ when she actually wants one herself. This is because when she’s heard that question before, she’s got a lolly.
Over time, many children with ASD can build on these beginnings and learn to use language in ways that more people can understand.
Nonverbal communication
These ways of communicating might include:
Undesirable behaviours
Many children with ASD behave in difficult ways, and this behaviour is often related to communication.
For example, self-harming behaviour, tantrums and aggression towards others might be a child’s way of trying to tell you that he needs something, isn’t happy or is really confused or frightened.
Children’s reasons for communicating are fairly simple – they communicate because they want something, because they want attention, or for more social reasons.
Typically developing children can usually communicate for all these reasons, and their ability to communicate in a ‘multifunctional’ way comes at about the same time. But it’s different in children with ASD, who develop the ability to communication in these ways over time.
First, they use communication to control another person’s behaviour, to ask for something, to protest or to satisfy physical needs.
Next comes communication to get or maintain someone’s attention – for example, a child might ask to be comforted, say hello and or even show off.
Last, and most difficult, are the communication skills children need to direct another person’s attention to an object or an event for social reasons.
You can expect communication from your child with ASD, even if it’s not the same as the way other children communicate. You can also help by:
This article was developed in collaboration with Anneke Jurgens, Monash University, Victoria
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